Preserve Your Self - Making a Case as to Why you Should not be Getting Angry
Posted: Monday, May 24, 2010
by Abhy Medkul
Life is what happens to us when we are busy making other plans. This is typically what happens to an average person and anger is but an obvious reaction when things do not proceed as planned or hurdles and unexpected problems or events throw spanner in the works. It could be a person, an event, a memory an association with a past occurrence, a peeve, you own ill-health or what have you that can flying off the handle.
- Lose your dignity as well as poise. Have you ever seen another angry person? Just imagine yourself looking mad with rage. It is picture of ugliness.
- Send a message to those witnessing your bout of anger that you are in no control of yourself, especially your emotions.
- End up physiologically hurting yourself as your anger triggers a release of stress hormones which hardly do you any good.
- Soften your own blow as the actual content of your displeasure gets diluted by the aggression and physical posturing.
- Have your thinking hampered and figure out a plausible solution to what has affected you so negatively.
- Lose it in your own eyes. Men of stature hardly let it known, even if there is a storm brewing beneath the composure.
- Damage your relations with people around you and who you really care for, as anger is liable to have you spewing harsh words without measuring the impact they will be having on the listener. Remember, sticks and stones break bones but harsh words often break relationships.
- Your progression as a spiritual being is hampered as you allow negative energy to wreck havoc in your system. Remember, apart from being the creatures in a material world, going about the daily lives, the ultimate goal is to move towards self-realisation and anger is at cross purposes with that.
So what do you do to counter the malaise? There is humaneness everywhere and there are no textbook methods that can ensure that one will not give in to anger. However, rapid strides can be made forward if one consciously chooses took at ones own conduct before being quick to judge and quick to react. The next time you feel that someone or something is pushing your buttons, ask yourself " How important is it? " Is it worthy of so much stress? Would you be agreeable to having a trade-off with it exchanging a heated moment with your dignity?
Would you rather look that ugly and out of control than let the person get away without having an earful from you? Has your anger brought about any positive effect in the past? Please differentiate honestly whether it was an outcome due to fear caused or because of reformation?
You may not be able to get an immediate control over your anger, but through practice and constant reminders, visualizing the above you may achieve significant progress. It is in the nature of the scorpion to sting and it is in the nature of the sage to be calm. People are different in their reactions to stimulus but you can also train yourself to be either sage or scorpion.
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Top-level comments on this article: (2 total)Good article, Abhy. You are right, losing your temper is rarely a good thing.Thank You Lorrie. Appreciate your interest and feedback. :)Abhy
Abhy, You're right about everything, I've always thought of myself as being a person with a strong character, I wasn't sure of what it really meant. Anger is just an emotion and is trying to tell you something, once you find out what it is about, you can control it and change it for a positive new emotion like love.Great Samantha. am glad to read what you have to say about it.Thanks for the feedback.
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